The influence of the father
For as long as I can remember, society has claimed that the mother is the most important person in a child’s development. She was the nurturer, the caregiver, the one who met her child’s every need. And most of us have never doubted it.
However, now that more and more stay-at-home dads are raising their children, we’re seeing that this isn’t really true. I have always known that fathers play a very important role in a child’s life. He serves as a role model for his sons, both positive and negative, and teaches his daughters what to expect from their future boyfriends and husbands.
If a father abuses his daughter, that is what she will expect from her male relationships. It may be painful, but it will most likely be accepted because it is familiar.
The same can be said for the sons. If he sees his father abusing his mother or sisters, he will probably feel comfortable doing the same to his girlfriends and wife. If he is the one who is abused by his father, he can use his fists against anyone who is weaker than him. He will undoubtedly have a store of anger and become a bully, just like his father.
But for children who have loving fathers, more than likely they will try to emulate him, if for no other reason, children always want the approval and love of their parents.
Never underestimate a father’s influence. He has a great influence, not only if he is mainly present in the house, but also if he is absent. If the father has abandoned his family, or if his work takes him away from home much of the time, this absence is a vivid reminder of what his children are missing.
I don’t know why, but have you ever seen a woman trying to get her child to brush her teeth and go to bed, or a woman trying to get her dog to follow her commands?
A woman often has to repeat herself, but one word from the man and his child brushes his teeth and immediately goes to bed, and his dog obeys without a whimper.
The time is fast approaching when society will recognize that the importance of man in raising children is equal to that of woman. And in time, the courts will grant fathers more privileges than they currently do.
by Connie H. Deutsch
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