The end of the first meeting
The end of a first date can be confusing for many guys as they meet women. You may be asking yourself (but not only) the following:
*Do I try to kiss her?
*Am I trying to get invited?
* Should I go to her door?
*Ask her if she had a good time?
* Am I talking about another date with her?
*Is it appropriate to text her that night or put her on Facebook and tell her I’m thinking about her?
* Should I send flowers or another gift the next day?
Let’s take these one by one.
Should I try to kiss her?
Unless you’re not sure if she likes you or not, then go for the kiss. I bet this sounds like advice that is the opposite of what you would expect. The idea is to always accept women who are in love with us and for them to ANTICIPATE the next time we are with them. If she’s laughed at all (or most) of your jokes, focused entirely on you, touched your arm or leg a few times, and had those “light up” eyes while looking at you, then don’t try to kiss her. Wait until date 2 to go for the kiss. If she really likes you, she will be feverishly waiting for that “first kiss”.
However, if you have a girl who acts kind of distant and doesn’t laugh and touch you and looks around the room while you’re talking, firstly end this date early and secondly, if you really want to make sure you’re not falling for you, go for it the kiss. I bet they will turn your head and then you can delete her number.
The kiss at the end of the first date should only be used to disqualify a girl you suspect is not interested.
Am I trying to get invited?
This article is for guys looking for a relationship. If a relationship is not something you enjoy, then this advice is not for you.
For you guys looking for a relationship, the answer to the invitation in question is NO. First, almost every other guy is trying, and second, if you get invited, do you think she’s a good candidate for a relationship? No, do you think you’re the first man she’s ever done that to? true! I can sell you a bridge if you believe you were the only person who checked out her apartment after date 1.
Shall I send her to the door?
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Yes, because you are a gentleman.
Should I ask her if she had a good time?
No, because it shows a lack of confidence and telegraphs that you need her approval. You know she had a good time because she was with a real gentleman who made her laugh! Just tell her you had a good time.
Talk about another date with her?
NO! Women respond to CHALLENGE and MYSTERY. Do you think she might envision another date with you if you try to talk her out of it while dropping her off? When you ask a woman out while you’re still on a date, do you know what she hears? “I like you, do you like me? I want to make sure you like me, please!”
That’s what she hears! And as she hears this, she imagines your head on the body of a puppy gasping for your words.
Be a MYSTERY, be a CHALLENGE and she’ll be thinking about you (despite her best efforts) between dates.
Is it appropriate to text her tonight or tell her on Facebook and let her know I’m thinking of her?
First of all, stay off social media! You can’t be a mystery to her if she knows what you had for breakfast on your social network page. She might look at your page and think “he likes Pop Tarts? I hate Pop Tarts and boys who eat them.’ Okay, this might be an extreme example, but the more information she has about you BEFORE you’re face to face with her, the worse. You are a stranger to her and you do not need to put such information about yourself could to disqualify you before you even get to date 1!
As for contacting her immediately after the date, I’m sure you know I’m against that because it kills the MYSTERY, the CHALLENGE and her anticipation of another date with you.
Should I send flowers or another gift the next day?
You know what is one of the only book categories that is still doing well? Romance novels for women. The man with the flowing hair who swoops down on the white horse and grabs her is what many women are buying and eating up these days.
Do you think the man on the horse sends her roses the next day at work with a card telling her how much he likes her?
I do not think.
Again, this kills the MYSTERY and CHALLENGE!
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